M.L. Adams’s simple poem, “What Would Water Do,” offers profound insights, especially for those navigating the challenging waters of family caregiving. Like water, caregivers face a constant stream of demands, obstacles, and emotional currents.
What Would Water Do?
It never holds or clings
It flows, it moves, it adapts,
Never resisting
Simply going with where it is flowing,
Always finding the way
~ M. L Adams
Water does not cling or hold on. It moves, renews, cleanses, and purifies. Water adapts. It takes on the shape of its container, effortlessly adjusting to its surroundings. Essential for life, water is a force of both change and renewal. When it is still, it stagnates, growing bacteria that can cause illness. In its natural state, water is in constant motion, a symbol of the natural order of things and of letting go. Flowing water goes around obstacles and does not cling to anything in its path. Water demonstrates the power of patience—wearing down even the hardest stone, not through force, but through steady, gentle persistence. It follows a natural path, effortlessly adjusting to its surroundings, always finding a way forward.
The Caregiver’s Flow
- Embracing Adaptability:
Family caregivers must be willing to adjust plans and find new ways of doing things. This adaptability is key to navigating the unpredictable nature of caregiving. - Releasing Control:
Just as water doesn’t cling, caregivers must learn to release control over things they cannot control. Holding on too tightly can create stress and resentment. Letting go allows for a more peaceful and harmonious caregiving experience. - Finding the Path of Least Resistance:
Like water flowing around obstacles, caregivers can learn to find alternative paths when faced with challenges. This might involve seeking support, delegating tasks, or simply taking a break. - The Power of Gentle Persistence:
Water, over time, can erode even the hardest mountain rock or carve a new path in a river. Caregivers can make a significant difference in the lives of the people they care for with their persistent and compassionate care. - Maintaining the Natural Flow:
Caregivers must prioritize self-care. This means finding time for rest, relaxation, and activities that replenish their energy. Just as a river needs its source, caregivers need to maintain their health and well-being.
By embracing the wisdom of water, caregivers can navigate their journey with greater ease, grace, and resilience—always finding the way forward.
By Zanda Hilger, LPC, Founder, Family Caregiver & Program Manager for Family Caregivers Online
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